So last night with met with our Priest Fr. K and I absolutely LOVE him! Yes, his homilies are excellent and everyone i know who has witness one of his officiated weddings they said he was great. But actually sitting down with him in the office wearing his shorts, t-shirt and flip-flops I love him even more!
Getting ready to meet with him was quite funny; i think i changed my clothes three times. I even made matt change a couple times because i thought his shirt was too wrinkly. Then i made sure we were NOT late, the last thing id want was starting off with him on the wrong foot! But we got there and he was so welcoming and he made us laugh and feel totally comfortable. It's like right off the bat he knew we were good for each other.
One of the things he told us was he is not there to 'prepare us for marrage,' this is something we have been doing our entire lives. He had so many neat and interesting things to say, one of which was when he asked us why we wanted to marry the person sitting next to us. Matt had so many sweet and loving things to say ( i had almost as good of things to say... matt sometimes has a way with his words). What Fr. K said was this: that as we live our lives together these things we said about each other will not be the same reasons why we stay married in the future. What a cool thing to think about. I almost wish we could have tape recorded this conversation so we can play it back to each other in 10-15 years.
Overall i left the meeeting really excited about working with him a few more times before the wedding; he is really fun to talk and really relatable. You wouldn't imagine this with a preist. This preist is actually quite young and, really the best word to descibe him, is kinda 'cool.' He was in Cincinnati Magazine last week as one of the cities most interesting people. He has quite a lot of accomplishments already and he is only 39! Earlier this year he was also in the Business Courier's Top Fourty Under Fourty... he has such a neat life. Driving home matt and I were talking about how we want him to become the Pope in like 30 year or something.... wouldnt it be awesome to be able to say the Pope married us!?!
We left with a bundle of information and lots of stuff to talk about. We did take that compatibility test but as you read the questions they are only for those 'red flagged' marriages. Like: Do you feel you future spouse is abusive, or is there certain financial habits your future spouse has that worry you? And one of my favorites, Are there certain homosexual tendencies your future spouse has that may cause a problem in your future ? REALLY? And I bet people have agree to these statements before or else WHY WOULD THEY ASK THEM? I think we are good.
We also arranged an appointment with the Music Director and got a paper to start planning our readings/readers for the ceremony. Some of the other questions involved like who is walking down with the Mothers? Where do the attendants stand? What order will they come down? How do we want to be introduced?
WHERE IS THE USER MANUAL FOR THESE THINGS!?!? Gosh, i have no idea! There is one person I have in mind that I would like to ask to be a part of the ceremony, matt has 2... I've already asked one. it's going to be interesting how we decide on these things.
BUT FUN!
Alright enough wedding talk... on to ther things in life.
Happy Hump Day!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Wedding preparation and the Catholic Church
Today is our first meeting with our priest, Fr. K and I am very excited for some reason. Perhaps excited with anticipation more than anything to see what its going to be like. This is the one time in my life we go through these kind of 'ritualistic' preparation before the wedding. I hear we are taking the 'compatibility inventory' this evening. I have no idea what to expect.
Most of me is not worried at all, I know matt and I are compatible and we have been together long enough that we can answer any question correctly about each other without a second thought. In Matt's head, he thinks the purpose of these meetings are for those couples who are young and clearly have issues with divorce written all over them. I respect the Catholic church for focusing on each couple to guide them in the path away from divorce. Matt's boss was planning a wedding in early june and after his meetings with the priest it was called off. I dont believe they ended their relationship, but the church allowed them to take a step back and wait until they were "a little more ready." I do not believe such case will happen for us, but it hopefully will make us stronger.
I have had a lot of things on my mind,things that may come up in the inventory and thing that may not. Kids, health, wealth, ambition.... deep things i suppose. OF course, nothing negative but things that are important. I am thinking about how different my life is going to be in the next few years now that i going to be married. I know matt wants kids sooner than later-- so i can see us starting a family in the next few years. These last few summers will be the end of an era, an era that allows matt and I to pick up and go whenever we want, be spontaneous, spent money a little more relaxed... these Christmas's coming up will be the last few just the two of us. This phase in my life will be just a small blip in the greater picture. It's wierd to think about.
I worry about our healths, and I try to eat healthy so matt and I can stay strong and live very very long lives. I haven't been sleeping very well at night and I reeally really wished i did. I dont know how to change this. I wake up multiple times every night. The fact that i wake up stresses me out more than actually waking up. I dont feel rested in the morning, in fact i feel worse than had i gotten LESS hours but more consecutive sleep. I am trying SO hard to get into shape for the wedding, working out five days a week (and i have kept it up for over 2 weeks now) but the sleeping issue is holding me back. In fact, when i think about it makes me so angry!
Although overall reflecting upon the Now I am happy. I am really trying to enjoy this time in my life because when i look back everything happens so quick. I cannot wait to have a bigger house, kids running around in the back yard, family vacations with little ones- craft projects, homework help, and all the fun things that get bundled with the package. This is a short time in my life, I am very luck to have what I have.... above all else, I have lots and lots of love in my life. And I am lucky.
three things:
1) I love my fiancee very very much
2) we are so lucky our future in-laws are so 'normal' and love us very much
3) we are blessed with lots of luxuries right now, and lots of good friends
Most of me is not worried at all, I know matt and I are compatible and we have been together long enough that we can answer any question correctly about each other without a second thought. In Matt's head, he thinks the purpose of these meetings are for those couples who are young and clearly have issues with divorce written all over them. I respect the Catholic church for focusing on each couple to guide them in the path away from divorce. Matt's boss was planning a wedding in early june and after his meetings with the priest it was called off. I dont believe they ended their relationship, but the church allowed them to take a step back and wait until they were "a little more ready." I do not believe such case will happen for us, but it hopefully will make us stronger.
I have had a lot of things on my mind,things that may come up in the inventory and thing that may not. Kids, health, wealth, ambition.... deep things i suppose. OF course, nothing negative but things that are important. I am thinking about how different my life is going to be in the next few years now that i going to be married. I know matt wants kids sooner than later-- so i can see us starting a family in the next few years. These last few summers will be the end of an era, an era that allows matt and I to pick up and go whenever we want, be spontaneous, spent money a little more relaxed... these Christmas's coming up will be the last few just the two of us. This phase in my life will be just a small blip in the greater picture. It's wierd to think about.
I worry about our healths, and I try to eat healthy so matt and I can stay strong and live very very long lives. I haven't been sleeping very well at night and I reeally really wished i did. I dont know how to change this. I wake up multiple times every night. The fact that i wake up stresses me out more than actually waking up. I dont feel rested in the morning, in fact i feel worse than had i gotten LESS hours but more consecutive sleep. I am trying SO hard to get into shape for the wedding, working out five days a week (and i have kept it up for over 2 weeks now) but the sleeping issue is holding me back. In fact, when i think about it makes me so angry!
Although overall reflecting upon the Now I am happy. I am really trying to enjoy this time in my life because when i look back everything happens so quick. I cannot wait to have a bigger house, kids running around in the back yard, family vacations with little ones- craft projects, homework help, and all the fun things that get bundled with the package. This is a short time in my life, I am very luck to have what I have.... above all else, I have lots and lots of love in my life. And I am lucky.
three things:
1) I love my fiancee very very much
2) we are so lucky our future in-laws are so 'normal' and love us very much
3) we are blessed with lots of luxuries right now, and lots of good friends
Monday, June 15, 2009
few complaints this week...
Believe it or not I actually created a multi-paragraph post last week... but got so busy I never finished it and then eventually it was forgotten about. Ill try again this week. Life is BUSY. But good. My only complaint right now is how poorly ive been sleeping the last couple of weeks.... i just want to rest threw the night and wake-up refreshed. I havent had that feeling in quiet some time..... I reeeally need it.
Other than this complaint, i have maintained a pretty positive outlook and attitude towards everything lately. I have kept myself busy and have spent a lot of time with friends in the past week. Last week I went to Wine Down Wednesday and spent 3-4 hours sitting outside Indigo's in Covington drinking wine with the Ks and LOVED every minute of it. The balance of the week and weekend also turned out quite nicely i might add. Friday night I went out to dinner and some bars with 4 of my girl friends (most of whom never go out together but they all happen to be free and 3 of the 4 actually are my bridesmaids). It was a good night. Saturday morning Matt and I went boating all day with his friend J and R. ALl dayy boating... i got some sun, we stopped at this really fun deck marina and listened to music and drank some beers, then boating some more. Just sitting around floating down river.... it was AWESOME.
Other than this complaint, i have maintained a pretty positive outlook and attitude towards everything lately. I have kept myself busy and have spent a lot of time with friends in the past week. Last week I went to Wine Down Wednesday and spent 3-4 hours sitting outside Indigo's in Covington drinking wine with the Ks and LOVED every minute of it. The balance of the week and weekend also turned out quite nicely i might add. Friday night I went out to dinner and some bars with 4 of my girl friends (most of whom never go out together but they all happen to be free and 3 of the 4 actually are my bridesmaids). It was a good night. Saturday morning Matt and I went boating all day with his friend J and R. ALl dayy boating... i got some sun, we stopped at this really fun deck marina and listened to music and drank some beers, then boating some more. Just sitting around floating down river.... it was AWESOME.
Sunday was an ALL DAY regatta (7-3) that J and A volunteered at. Youth National Championship-- and it was crazy. But it was good to spent the time with J and A. When i got home I met up with Matt and headed to his parents house to hangout for a couple hours. This weekend was Jam packed....my apartment is a mess, I have NO food in my fridge, and it looks chaotic in there. I needed a free night to just do nothing and organize. I am rowing tonight so hopefully I can tend to that tomorrow.
Last week I worked out EVERY-SINGLE night. Monday- friday. YAY me. Friday, Saturday and Sunday-- i ate ALL FRIED FOOD. This in conjunction with not sleeping well is not helping with the Summer -of-Getting-In-Shape workout plan. The next couple weekends will be busy with various friend's birthday parties and cookouts NOT IN CINCI.... so it's certain to be busy.
I hope it's sunny this week. And warm. And hopefully work is SO MUCH LESS CRAZY than it has been recently. And hopefully ill find something interesting to post about in the mean time.
Happy Monday!
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Tired Tuesday
My week has been pretty irregular so i have had a hard time finding time to post. And at work, I am just waiting for the proverbial "other shoe" to drop since there is a lot of deadlines this week. The interesting thing is my boss has yet to walk into her office... i stare down the hall and it's dark when she usually is there before i am. hmmm puzzling.
I am at a loss of interesting things to say right now. I think it's because i am DEAD TIRED! I am guessing my reaction time is that of a 96 year old man. Come on, coffee, do your thing! Now that it is staying light later I am finding i dont want to be sitting in my house doing nothing when it's nice out. And in last night's case, i didnt eat dinner until after 9:30. And after i cleaned up, showered, and got ready for bed it was well after 11. And i had turned into a pumpkin weeeelll before then. When will my body adjust to being up early?
Another weekend came and went and it was a nice one. I saw my old college roommates, my parents and matt parents. Even hungout at their pool and got some sun on Sunday. This is the only weekend for a few weeks that it completely open at this point. Time is flying by SO fast! And the wedding-- MY GOSH, it's going to be hear before i know it! Speaking of, i need to call about our invitations that we were suppose to see the proofs last week. So much to do still...
Tonight I am seeing a personal trainer-- as part of my one month free at Urban Active. I hope he works me really hard. I weighed myself last night AFTER my workout and I weighed 126.6..... which i've been wobbling around 127-28 for the past month. I think that half pount might be water. I have until September 26th to lose my little pooch stomach and hopefully lose just five measly pounds. It seems so little but IT IS SOOO HARD!!!
I
Can
Do
It.
For now... back to work!
I am at a loss of interesting things to say right now. I think it's because i am DEAD TIRED! I am guessing my reaction time is that of a 96 year old man. Come on, coffee, do your thing! Now that it is staying light later I am finding i dont want to be sitting in my house doing nothing when it's nice out. And in last night's case, i didnt eat dinner until after 9:30. And after i cleaned up, showered, and got ready for bed it was well after 11. And i had turned into a pumpkin weeeelll before then. When will my body adjust to being up early?
Another weekend came and went and it was a nice one. I saw my old college roommates, my parents and matt parents. Even hungout at their pool and got some sun on Sunday. This is the only weekend for a few weeks that it completely open at this point. Time is flying by SO fast! And the wedding-- MY GOSH, it's going to be hear before i know it! Speaking of, i need to call about our invitations that we were suppose to see the proofs last week. So much to do still...
Tonight I am seeing a personal trainer-- as part of my one month free at Urban Active. I hope he works me really hard. I weighed myself last night AFTER my workout and I weighed 126.6..... which i've been wobbling around 127-28 for the past month. I think that half pount might be water. I have until September 26th to lose my little pooch stomach and hopefully lose just five measly pounds. It seems so little but IT IS SOOO HARD!!!
I
Can
Do
It.
For now... back to work!
Friday, May 29, 2009
Friday another sunny day
So I finally made it to Friday. This was only a 4 day week but it sure had it's ups and downs. I have been eating like complete shit the last few days... well the entire week really. I haven't gone to the grocery at all so i can pretty much count the servings of fruit or vegetables on one hand. Or perhaps more like 3 fingers. The balance of my fruits and vegetables were consumed at cookouts smothered in mayonnaise and cheese. healthy! Yesterday my meals consisted of: Breakfast- Coffee and a cookie. Lunch: Skyline Chili and Dinner: Bdubs followed by leftover chocolate cake i had in my fridge from last week. And that was just yesterday! I wont dare tell you how the remainder of the week fared. yikes. The Wedding Dress Gods are rolling over in their graves right now.
Yesterday was quite a delightful and interesting experience at the same time. I was telling Matt that i was perusing Zappos.com looking for some casual black sandals and i couldnt find any pairs i liked except for one pair that was $132. haha and well, yes, that is expensive but not drop-your-jaw-now-i -have-to-eat-Ramon noodles-the-rest-of-the-week expensive. I mean come on, they are real leather!:) But listen to this! Matt said let's go to DSW and see if we, yes, WE can find a much cheaper pair together. And believe it or not- MATT WENT SHOE SHOPPING WITH ME!!! Ya, it had everything to do with the fact the it's boneless wing night at Bdubs right around the block from DSW, but he was actually helping me!!! He walked up every isle with me, and even pointed as shoes he thought fit the bill of what i described i was looking for! he was soo patient! haha of course he had some sarcastic remarks and made a lot of the jokes along the way... but believe it or not he picked out the shoes i ended up buying. And they were in Clearance! 30% off!! Way to go Matt! Matt would die if anyone one of his friends stumbled upon this blog and saw that he went shoe shopping with his fiancee. I love you, Matt.
and hooray for $30 ON SALE Kenneth Cole sandals!
This weekend it certain to be nice. The weather is supposed to be perfect, Matt has promised to run with me, we have some family stuff going on including his cousins graduation party saturday night. And I think we might be popping by F's new house at some point too. Should be fantastic! Next week we are hopefully going to finally have our engagement video shot (it was suppose to happen wednesday-- but i wont go into that fiasco). PRAY PRAY for good weather. I cant have another situation like this week. I took the day off on thursday, i think i am going to play around with highlights at the salon that morning. I hope i dont make a mistake! Its awful close to teh wedding and this only teh second time i have had highlights in my hair. I am a liiiiitle nervous.
I am so glad it's friday!!
Happy weekend everyone!!!
Yesterday was quite a delightful and interesting experience at the same time. I was telling Matt that i was perusing Zappos.com looking for some casual black sandals and i couldnt find any pairs i liked except for one pair that was $132. haha and well, yes, that is expensive but not drop-your-jaw-now-i -have-to-eat-Ramon noodles-the-rest-of-the-week expensive. I mean come on, they are real leather!:) But listen to this! Matt said let's go to DSW and see if we, yes, WE can find a much cheaper pair together. And believe it or not- MATT WENT SHOE SHOPPING WITH ME!!! Ya, it had everything to do with the fact the it's boneless wing night at Bdubs right around the block from DSW, but he was actually helping me!!! He walked up every isle with me, and even pointed as shoes he thought fit the bill of what i described i was looking for! he was soo patient! haha of course he had some sarcastic remarks and made a lot of the jokes along the way... but believe it or not he picked out the shoes i ended up buying. And they were in Clearance! 30% off!! Way to go Matt! Matt would die if anyone one of his friends stumbled upon this blog and saw that he went shoe shopping with his fiancee. I love you, Matt.
and hooray for $30 ON SALE Kenneth Cole sandals!
This weekend it certain to be nice. The weather is supposed to be perfect, Matt has promised to run with me, we have some family stuff going on including his cousins graduation party saturday night. And I think we might be popping by F's new house at some point too. Should be fantastic! Next week we are hopefully going to finally have our engagement video shot (it was suppose to happen wednesday-- but i wont go into that fiasco). PRAY PRAY for good weather. I cant have another situation like this week. I took the day off on thursday, i think i am going to play around with highlights at the salon that morning. I hope i dont make a mistake! Its awful close to teh wedding and this only teh second time i have had highlights in my hair. I am a liiiiitle nervous.
I am so glad it's friday!!
Happy weekend everyone!!!
Thursday, May 28, 2009
End the Broadway season and sunshine
So yesterday was one of those uneasy days that just nothing seems to work out right. It put me in a pretty grouchy mood, causes unnecessary stress between Matt and I, and I probably could have been a little more pleasant at work. Today hopefully will be much better, even though it;s too soon to tell because i've only been up and at work for a little more than an hour. And it doesn't help that i feel a little frumpy today.
The highlight of yesterday was getting spend some quality time with J and A before we went to see Chorus Line at the Aronoff. It was the last play of the season and it went out with a fizzle. It was a HORRIBLE play! In fact, there was no intermission and I believe it was because if they had one 70% of the people would leave! there was no plot, no good songs, it was hard to follow, and SO BORING!! It was the only play of the past few years i can honestly say i hated. Well, this and the Sweeny Todd.... only because Sweeny had this horrible ear piercing sound when somone died that made the play hardly bearable. But we already purchased next season's tickets and there are a LOT of good plays coming: A White Christmas, Mary Poppins, Dreams Girls , Legally Blond and a few others. The extras include Rent and Chicago! I am SO EXCITED!! I love Broadway play night with those girls, we feel soo 'sex in the city.'
It is gloomy and rainy out right now and I am really hoping it gets sunny and warm later today. I am so happy its thursday. I cant wait to go home and relax a little bit, maybe workout, and chill. What a strange and busy week this has been. I am looking forward to a warm weekend. I really want to buy a family pass to the Oakley pool where Matt lives, layout, and enjoy the sun. I am craving the beach, but i think ill settle for t he public pool this weekend.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
All politics is local
So sitting in the car with Matt yesterday driving back downtown from his parents I was SO. FIRED.UP. I mean to the point where I just need an outlet to vent all the frustrations i am having with what is going on with our government and i SWORE i would never make this blog political. BUT I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!!
To the few readers that read or stumble upon this blog who consider themselves Obama supporters please stop reading now.
Dont say i didnt warn you.....
It all started when i found out last night (pardon me for not having time to skim the headlines yesterday) that Mr. Obama gave GM another 30 BILLION DOLLARS!!! And it makes me sooo enraged because they have proven time and time again that they CANT PAY IT BACK!! They have gone bankrupt, what, three times now? MORE than that? And the worst part is... it's the government paying GM $30B with YOUR MONEY so they can just buy incinerators and dump the money in as soon as they get it. This will pay the workers until, uh, Friday? MY GOD!! DOESNT ANYONE SEE HOW WRONG THIS IS!?!? Why is Mr. Obama still giving them our money? and SOOO MUCH MONEY!!!! Dont give me any Union garbage, and any feel good -'keep people employed' b.s. YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT MR. OBAMA, step up to the plate and make sound investments with your people's money!!!!
Are we turning in a communist nation with this ideology?
AMERICA IS (*supposed to be* A FREE CAPITALIST MARKET!
He has single handedly put me, you, your bothers, sisters, all your friends in 60 thousand plus dollars in debt per PERSON in just the first few months of his presidency already. Which is only going to accumulate interest in the years to come. And once inflation hits were are in even worse shape. And believe you me, it will hit. He has but our government is such a compromising position that if Mr. Obama could potentially ended up downgrading the US Government sovreign credit rating. That would mean we have accumulating so much debt that we are no longer creditable to pay it back. No one, ever, in our history believed the government would default on a loan. T-bills, bonds, they all would lose their value. Right now both Moody's Investors and the Standard and Poors have the US government as the highest credit ranking possible. We have been considered one of the few financially strong nations in the world (AAA). The biggest mistake our current president could make would be to cause the US' rating to downgrade to AA. This would be the WORSE mistake in our history... we have to hope this doesn't occur. Because that $60k+ that each of us owe today, will turn into $600k because interest rates will be so high and the dollar will have virtually no value what so ever.
Mr. OBAMA... PLEASE TAKE CARE WITH OUR MONEY!!!!!!
And all those democrats out there that dont want to upset the Unions. All those demarcates that make up the 30-40% of America that dont pay taxes... how can we get you to see what harm this president is putting our country in. And our future. And your kids future in this country. This president has transferred so much wealth in these 4 months he has been president than any president. And this is NOT right. America is a country where you should be rewarded for hard work. You should be able to start up a company in the hopes to provide for yourselves and earn a profit with a good business. This is not a country in which bad business is rewarded; this is not a country in which we pay able-bodied people to not work; This is a country that allows people who work hard to rise the top and should not have to give up 40% of their wealth to those who don't work as hard.
GOD BLESS AMERICA. GOD HELP AMERICA.
To the few readers that read or stumble upon this blog who consider themselves Obama supporters please stop reading now.
Dont say i didnt warn you.....
It all started when i found out last night (pardon me for not having time to skim the headlines yesterday) that Mr. Obama gave GM another 30 BILLION DOLLARS!!! And it makes me sooo enraged because they have proven time and time again that they CANT PAY IT BACK!! They have gone bankrupt, what, three times now? MORE than that? And the worst part is... it's the government paying GM $30B with YOUR MONEY so they can just buy incinerators and dump the money in as soon as they get it. This will pay the workers until, uh, Friday? MY GOD!! DOESNT ANYONE SEE HOW WRONG THIS IS!?!? Why is Mr. Obama still giving them our money? and SOOO MUCH MONEY!!!! Dont give me any Union garbage, and any feel good -'keep people employed' b.s. YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT MR. OBAMA, step up to the plate and make sound investments with your people's money!!!!
Are we turning in a communist nation with this ideology?
AMERICA IS (*supposed to be* A FREE CAPITALIST MARKET!
He has single handedly put me, you, your bothers, sisters, all your friends in 60 thousand plus dollars in debt per PERSON in just the first few months of his presidency already. Which is only going to accumulate interest in the years to come. And once inflation hits were are in even worse shape. And believe you me, it will hit. He has but our government is such a compromising position that if Mr. Obama could potentially ended up downgrading the US Government sovreign credit rating. That would mean we have accumulating so much debt that we are no longer creditable to pay it back. No one, ever, in our history believed the government would default on a loan. T-bills, bonds, they all would lose their value. Right now both Moody's Investors and the Standard and Poors have the US government as the highest credit ranking possible. We have been considered one of the few financially strong nations in the world (AAA). The biggest mistake our current president could make would be to cause the US' rating to downgrade to AA. This would be the WORSE mistake in our history... we have to hope this doesn't occur. Because that $60k+ that each of us owe today, will turn into $600k because interest rates will be so high and the dollar will have virtually no value what so ever.
Mr. OBAMA... PLEASE TAKE CARE WITH OUR MONEY!!!!!!
And all those democrats out there that dont want to upset the Unions. All those demarcates that make up the 30-40% of America that dont pay taxes... how can we get you to see what harm this president is putting our country in. And our future. And your kids future in this country. This president has transferred so much wealth in these 4 months he has been president than any president. And this is NOT right. America is a country where you should be rewarded for hard work. You should be able to start up a company in the hopes to provide for yourselves and earn a profit with a good business. This is not a country in which bad business is rewarded; this is not a country in which we pay able-bodied people to not work; This is a country that allows people who work hard to rise the top and should not have to give up 40% of their wealth to those who don't work as hard.
GOD BLESS AMERICA. GOD HELP AMERICA.
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